The keys to sexual purity in dating.
Before going any further, I would like your attention on two things. First of all, dating someone doesn't have to be a trivial thing for you. You don't just have to do it because your friends are doing it. But, do it because it allows you to discover excellent and amazing things about the personality of the person you reveal. The Bible says it: iron is sharpened by iron.
Then your dating usually repeats who you are. The adage is clear on this: « tell me who you realize and I'll tell you who you are. » Or, because your identity is in Christ, everything you do must bear the imprint of Christ. Do not forget who you are.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 (KJV) “What God wants is your sanctification; it is that you abstain from fornication; it is that each one of you know how to possess his body in holiness and honesty, without yielding yourselves to passionate lust, as do the pagans who do not know God. »
You've been feeling ready to date for a while now, haven't you? Or have you been dating for a while, but you can't understand the limits that you have to impose on yourself to be in the total will of the Lord?
Although dating is a normal and common choice in everyone's life, the fact remains that it must be done according to the will of God. And one of the things that clothes God's favor on your life, it's your sexual purity in your dating. That's why today I'm offering three keys to keeping your sexual purity in dating.
1. Choose wisely who you direct.
Before dating someone in the true sense of the term, it is very important to know who they are, what their motivations are, their ideals and most importantly, you need to know if this person shares your faith or if they have the same vision and the same conception as you regarding sexual purity. First, what do you think about sexual purity yourself? Does your design align with God’s Word? If this is not the case, I invite you to pray this prayer:
« Lord, grant me the grace to walk in modesty and restraint henceforth, seeing my body first and foremost as the temple of God, in the name of Jesus. Amen. »
1 Peter 2:11 (S21) “Beloved, I encourage you, as temporary residents and strangers on earth, to refrain from the desires of your own nature which war against the soul. »
It is therefore not an easy task to date someone. If because of this, you want to keep yourself pure and that person is not even aware of what you are fighting for, you risk not being able to stay in the heart of God's perfect will for your life. . When you think of the invisible things hidden in God, he/she will only see the visible things, when you think of the Spirit, he/she will only see the chair.
Can you already imagine how hard it will be if you are already attached to this person? Also, don't make the mistake of calling yourself the savior of this person, just because you don't want to face the truth.
1 Corinthians 15:33 (KJV) “Make no mistake: Bad company corrupts good morals. »
2. Recognize your weaknesses and limitations.
Matthew 26:41(S21) “Stay vigilant and pray not to give in to temptation. The Spirit is willing, but by nature man is weak. »
You may have all the will in the world to maintain your sexual purity in your relationships, but having the ability is another thing. Quite often, some believe that they are strong enough, that they are protected and safe from sexual impurity. This is why they do not consider it necessary to set limits, however beneficial.
Recognizing your weaknesses is the key to being able to set your limits and not expose yourself to falling. You will be able to better define the places to avoid, the music and content etc. that don't match your motivation. The ability to maintain one's purity is God who gives it, it is only with His Spirit that we can achieve this. Too much confidence in one's own abilities leads to pride, which will lead to downfall.
Maintaining purity in dating is with the help of the Holy Spirit, you know why? Because when you decide to keep yourself pure, you thwart the plan of the enemy, who will try by all means to defeat you. You can therefore only emerge victorious with the help of God.
Romans 13:14 (KJV) “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ and be not concerned with your nature to satisfy its lusts. »
3. Live by the Spirit so as not to yield to the chair
The Apostle Paul never ceased in his letters to exhort us to walk in the Spirit. This is the only way to please God and live for Him. It is by living through Him and for Him that we can fight the chair and its desires. It is by being sensitive to His voice and His will that we can live irrepressibly before Him. In your relationships, if you want to maintain your sexual purity, you must live according to the Spirit.
Spend time in praise, prioritize your moments of intimacy with the Lord, starting by setting yourself a time of meditation alone with the Lord. Avoid isolating yourself and finding yourself in places alone with the person you realize, even to pray. And the God who sees everything in secret places gives it back to you.
Galatians 5:16-17 (KJV) “I say therefore, Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the desires of the chair. For the flesh has desires contrary to those of the Spirit, and the Spirit has desires contrary to those of the flesh; they are opposed to each other, so that you do not do what you would like. »
The keys to sexual purity in dating.