Do I have to get married?
In the mind of God, why exactly do we get married? This is a question that we can ask ourselves in principle before getting married, but also afterwards so as not to lose the vision of God, and the primary objective of marriage. But what could we answer to this question, because we must have good motivations to get married at the risk of ruining his marriage.
For the glory of God.
Marriage is a divine institution. Nowadays, it is really important to clarify, we reduce marriage to celebration, to party, as certain reality TV shows make us understand which, through their broadcasts, trivialize and distort marriage. Before being a celebration, and a happy day, or even an act to be performed before civil authorities, it is above all a creation of God. Our God is a Holy, Holy, Holy God, we cannot under any circumstances, note a dress or even the party, or create a flame between two single people, create games around the love and fidelity of a couple or whatever... Marriage deserves to be respected and not used to have more fans on its social media pages or even as a marketing promotion. Let's not exploit what God considers sacred!
Man, by asking for marriage for all, for example, distorts the image to which God aspired for humanity.
Genesis 2 v 18 (KJV) “And the LORD God said, It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper like him. »
When He said this, He created the one Adam named Eve. Eve means mother of all living, or life, or woman. By, we can agree that according to the Holy Bible, God calls the union between a man and a woman and nothing else. Regarding these acts, even though same-sex marriage has been legalized in some countries, God for His part will not accept it. never.
Here is the truth: Romans 1 v 26-27 (Darby) “Therefore God gave them up to infamous passions, for their wives changed the natural use into that which is against nature; and men also alike, leaving the natural use of woman, kindled in their lust for one another, committing infamy, male with male, and receiving in themselves due recompense for their misguidance . »
We may disagree with the Word of God, that never takes away the fact that it is the only and entire truth. Let's take an example, 1 + 1 = 2 whether you accept it or not, this rule is true, you can teach your children that 1 + 1 is 10, they will learn it and remember it but that does not remove that is not the truth. It is your truth and it is the one that you have chosen to teach to whoever you want, but you will not be able to change the mathematical laws.
For the Holy Bible, it's the same thing, you can eliminate verses, turn a deaf ear, bury your head in the sand, "marry" in a church, if you are of the same sex, this is an abomination for God. Eternal. Let us not lose sight of the fact that God loves sinners and that is why He sent Jesus Christ, but He abhors sin and He does not adhere to it in any way and under no pretext or excuse! Starting from the principle that if we marry, it is above all to honor the Heavenly Father, we cannot adhere to such practices, nor encourage them.
Colossians 3:17 (KJV): “And whatever you do, word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father. "
Always with the idea of pleasing God, to marry is to be in agreement with Christ because we cannot call ourselves Christians, disciples of Jesus Christ and live in cohabitation because that implies a situation of impudence, of fornication.
1 Corinthians 6:9 & 10 (Darby): “Do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the Kingdom of God? Make no mistake about it: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor those who deceive themselves with men, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor outrageous, nor robbers, shall inherit the Kingdom of God. »
Everything we do we must do in order to glorify the sweet and precious name of Jesus Christ.
It is important to say that if you find yourself in one of the situations mentioned above, it is not too late, God forgives you if you repent sincerely, that you turn away from these ways that do not glorify Him and that you promise you to follow his commandments. It is still an immense grace that God gives us!
1 Corinthians 6 v 11 (Darby): “And some of you were such; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God. »
This institution is both a mystery and a revelation. Yes these two words seem so opposite and yet… It is the strict truth. A mystery because, ultimately, marriage is the image of the future coming of Christ to marry his fiancée: the Church. So there are elements that we don't have entirely on marriage. And on the other hand, it's a revelation because every day, God teaches us in the school of marriage, what he expects from the bride and groom. Indeed, marriage is one of the means that God uses so that we are in His image.
To witness to others.
We are to serve as a testimony.
Indeed, the divorce rate continues to increase every year. When we marry, we must also be moved to do so because we want to bear witness to the whole world of what a marriage is according to the Holy Word.
We must have as a desire: to be a living testimony of love for her husband, for her wife, for her children. Those who watch us must wonder about the nature, the reason behind our fulfilling family life. This does not mean that there are no disagreements, but that these disagreements are well handled!
Ecclesiastes 4:12 (Darby) “And if any man has the upper hand over one, the two shall t him head; and the triple rope does not break quickly. »
To make a difference within our family, in the event that some are still unconverted, to be able to share our values with them, so that their children, in contact with ours, can hear about what Jesus does in their lives. It is also with our work colleagues or our sports or games partners (chess, scrabble, etc.) by refusing, for example, to watch pornographic videos or refusing to talk about subjects that do not glorify God around us. sex for example, or adultery, fornication, or not following them offer outings to nightclubs or hookah bars and many others.
Through the education we give to our children, the values we instill in them, the parental model that we are, we convey the character of Christ. We must say what we do and do what we tell our children. Sometimes we tell our children not to lie but if someone calls and we don't want to talk to that person, we shouldn't tell them, give false information like: I'm not present, because the children know that this is a lie. In the end, let's not contradict ourselves in our words. Let's be these models for our children so that they become with others.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-11 (KJV) “Two are better than one, because they get good wages from their work. For, if they fall, one raises his companion; but woe to him who is alone and who falls, without having a second to raise him! Likewise, if two sleep together, they are hot; but he who is alone, how will he be warm? »
This is so that we can grow in contact with others, but also in order to better understand and live the Word of God. I am not saying that a single person does not understand the Word, far from it. Simply, there are verses that we understand better once married, they take on their full meaning, or when we become parents, we understand better what God meant.
Let's take an example, starting from Proverbs 22:6 (KJV): “Train up a child in the way he should go; And when he is old, he will not turn away from it. » We believe in the Word, we know it is Truth, but until we are truly parents, we are not fully aware of the strength and power of this truth. It sometimes happened to me to hear my parents tell me certain things, but as long as I had not really lived them, they generated for me only one word among others.
We hear about Jesus who heals but when God delivers us from an illness, then this word becomes strong for us because we really spread the experience, this is what we call the incarnate word!
Through marriage, God will use the wife so that the husband can be softer, more tender, so that he can express his feelings. And the husband will allow his wife not to react under the emotions, show her how God loves her by manifesting it, but also by teaching her to set limits and to be more firm at times. In contact with the other, we are two precious stones that polish themselves to become an object of great price.
Of course we are not going to lie to each other, marriage opens the door to sexual relations, but also to the manifestation and reception of love, tender gestures, sweet words, affections, moments of complicity, but also to live an authentic relationship with someone we love and who loves us to our true worth and according to the instructions of the Father whom we serve!
Finally, it must be said, it will be crucial to do some introspection and to know the real reasons for us wanting to get married. Above all, let's not forget that our desires must come after those of the Alpha and the Omega. God knows our needs, that does not prevent us from sharing them with him. On the contrary, we must share with Him our needs, desires, expectations, questions, feelings,… But He also knows how to give them to us at the right time, at the perfect time!
Matthew 6:7-8 (KJV) “In praying, do not multiply vain words, like the heathen, who imagine that by dint of words they will be heard. Don't look like them; for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him. »
Author Flora Virtuous ( – Frequency Chrétienne)