How do I react when a brother from the church confesses his feelings to me?
When you're single, it's a situation that can happen one day or another and it's completely normal. It is also for many people, the main subject of prayer. But how are you supposed to react when that happens?
Give thanks to god.
I would already like to bless God for your life and ask you to give thanks to Him according to 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (KJV). Yes ! You must praise the God of blessing who has distinguished you so that someone will identify you as a girl of valor, a girl worthy of being called a virtuous woman (Proverbs 31:10), this is a grace my sister. There are multitudes in our congregations who have been waiting for this moment for a long time. I tell you, this is not given to all the girls of your generation and even those before. So yes, give thanks to God!
Be careful not to get carried away too quickly!
I imagine that your reaction will perhaps depend on your state of mind, your emotional state when he will finish making his advances (smile). It can depend on whether or not you admire the person concerned or even on the prejudices you have about him. But whatever fire was already burning inside you for him (I guess), act a little surprised. It's a lot of honor before moving on, give me time to think and pray about it. A woman must be desired, is not it.
If in the world it often works, you will tolerate seeking the will of God, your Creator Father who knows what and whoever suits you best. Although in the world, girls can generally take the time to think… I also have a past in the world and I can tell you that the examination phase exists. There difference here is that it is no longer you alone who checks your own methods. But you do it with God's help.
Pray and request the “go” of God.
After this step, go into the presence of the Lord to know His will. And this is the most important step. If you negotiate this shift well, your marriage will be happy by the grace of God. You must therefore not neglect it because the Bible says in Proverbs 16: 1-2 (NIV) which “Man makes plans, but the one who has the last word is the Eternal. You may think everything you do is good, but it is the Lord who appreciates your motives. »
Better, verse 3 will say " Commit your works to the Lord, and your plans will come true.. » So, only God can tell you if this choice is good for you or not. If this brother is the one He (God) really wants for you. Remember, you are child of god and as your Father, He wants the best for you, whatever your status. You just need to ask Him in prayer. Moreover, in Luke 11:9-18 (KJV), the Lord Jesus Christ let us know how the Heavenly Father is ready to assist us and always able to do better than our biological fathers. So take some time apart (even in fasting if possible) to hear Him better.
It is the answer from the times in the secret place with God which will be your breviary. If the Holy Spirit gives you the green light, so go for it. What is certain is that God is always clear unless you have not been in His presence in Spirit and Truth. Unless, all excited, you have chosen absentmindedly, informing God of your choice and not consulting Him to know His Will. These are two very different cases.
Talk to a leader in your community.
If God's answer is "yes" or if you are having trouble having your heart, you must inform the net leader within your community. From your enlightened exchanges, other clues will probably confirm the Word received from God. If so, you have to give thanks because you would have one less thorn in your side. And it will only be the result of your quality time in the presence of God.
On the other hand, if the answer of those in charge is a "no" or a "be careful", especially if this answer is based on relevant spiritual and/or behavioral arguments (perhaps the brother in question already has two or three requests for other girls in the same cell or waiting church), sister, you better keep a low profile.
But in the end, you always have to meet again at the Holy Spirit. It is the one that the Lord Himself has recommended to us in case of need according to John 14:26 (KJV).
Give him your answer.
Once these filters have been passed successfully, all you have to do is tell them your decision (a yes or a no). I would still like to let you know that it will not be “God's decision” but “Your decision” because the last word is yours. Don't be troubled my sister, that's how it is with God. He sets before you evil and good. The choice is yours.
May the Lord bless you in the Glorious Name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Author Arnaud Acapko ( – Fréquence Chrétienne)